Earlier this year Seth Godin posted a really interesting blog post titled Your Mood vs. Your Reality.
One of the questions he poses is “Does something have to happen in the outside world for you to be happy inside?”
He goes on to point out the various economic/marketing connections to ‘happiness’ which is interesting, and ultimately concludes that “Happiness, for most of us, is a choice. Reality is not. It seems, though, that choosing to be happy ends up changing the reality that we keep track of.”
I couldn’t agree more. To a very great extent we choose our reality. We may not be able to choose what happens to us, but we can, as the saying goes, choose how we react to what happens to us; and that, ladies and gentlemen, is the super secret sauce to life.
How we choose to interpret our reality, or put another way, how we choose to process our experience of life is a matter of our minds. It is, in the final analysis, a matter of that internal conversation going on in our minds when something, good or bad, happens in our environment or our experience of living.
Of course, that internal conversation, is nothing more than answers to the questions our mind is posing. “Is this good or bad?” and “should I be happy about this or not?”.
For most of us, this happens almost instantaneously, and without governance as our mind directs the brains storehouse of knowledge to evaluate what happened and filter it through our own experience to come up with an answer.
Imagine if you could direct those questions, filter them before they rule your reaction to an experience? Imagine if you could take control and decide that you want to experience your life on your terms, not someone else’s? The fact is, you can.
What questions could you ask to end up with, as Seth eluded in his post, “That’s interesting,” instead of “that’s terrible.”?
All you have to do, is ASK.